Yes and no. My mother is still 68. She will still get sick. She will still annoy me. Old arguments will resurface. That is life.
Let’s be clear about the results. My mother is not a different person. She still makes passive-aggressive comments about my weight. She still interrupts me. She will never be the warm, fuzzy matriarch of a Hallmark movie.
Try 30 days. Call her. Shower her with the love you think she doesn't deserve. And then come back and tell me what got fixed. after a month of showering my mother with love fix
– Useful "vouchers" she can redeem: "One afternoon of errands done by me," "Home-cooked dinner of your choice," "Tech support session," "Uninterrupted nap time."
Take a hard, objective look at the past 30 days. How exactly did you show your love? More importantly, does that method align with how your mother actually perceives care? Yes and no
It is you.
Give neutral, uninteresting responses to baiting or critical comments. She will still annoy me
For years, I lived in that gray space with my own mother. Our conversations were logistical; our hugs were brief and stiff; our history was a minefield of unspoken resentments. I had accepted the distance as a permanent feature of adulthood. Then, one quiet Tuesday morning, I decided to run an experiment on myself. For thirty days, I would shower my mother with love. Not expensive gifts, not grand gestures. Just a relentless, gentle, specific campaign of affection. This is the story of what happened after that month—and the unexpected "fix" that followed.
If you’d like to tailor this approach, I can help you brainstorm: * for showing love.